4.30.2010

The Science of Happiness

(photo via TIME.com)

I'm a happy person, oh yes. I am most definitely a very happy person. (I just love, love, love my happy things!) I'm also a grad student in a scientific field, so when these two passions of mine come together, oooh myyy - the outcome is downright magnificent!

Upon awakening this morning, I flipped on the tube to the news, as per my usual morning routine. I was sparked by a new headline... "The Science of Happiness." The Today show did a segment about genetically determined features of happiness, and their environmental counterparts that may trigger glee in our lives. What'd I do next, you ask? I googled it, natch!

My findings... I found article after article after article discussing the nature/nurture debate - how we, as humans, may be genetically determined to seek happiness in our lives, but stumble across triggers in our environment that encourage us to maintain our happiness. Of course, professionals in the field could argue for years (as they have already) over the importance of nature and nurture combining forces; there is certainly no absolute answer on this, as of yet. (Which school of thought do you follow, nature/ nurture/ nature & nurture?) It is important to note, however, I am not ruling out the relevance of depression. Major Depressive Disorder, or MDD, is an intense diagnosis and emerges from a variety of events - genetic and environmental. As a student of Psychology, I may argue, perhaps our genetics are the driving force behind finding happiness in our lives. Although we may very well be predetermined to become happy people, perhaps our genes act as the catalyst for embracing what occurs in our environments. Here, the two perspectives merge together in a new way.

Scientists simply love the act of research, but always come across the same problem when evaluating an idea... "But how do we measure it?" The BBC did a wonderful series on the science of happiness, as they discussed the importance of measuring happiness. At this point, self-report becomes the ideal way to measure how happy one is at different points in his or her life. Naturally, there are drawbacks to using this style of data collection... We'll save that for another post... So then, back to the BBC... After administering a survey to participants, a correlation, or pattern, began to emerge. "Significant relationships between happiness and some other factor were repeated." In science, the word "prove" is a bad, bad word. We cannot "prove" anything. We can certainly suggest that a significant relationship exists, but we cannot say definitively that "A" caused "B." There are simply too many other factors that can potentially impact a relationship. So, what are these "factors," you ask? Professor Ed Diener from the University of Illinois reported some of them...

"First, family and friends are crucial - the wider and deeper the relationships with those around you the better. It is even suggested that friendship can ward off germs. Our brains control many of the mechanisms in our bodies which are reponsible for disease."

"The second vital ingredient is having meaning in our lives - something bigger than yourself - from religion, spirtuality, or a philosophy of life."

"The third element is having goals embedded in your long term values that you're working for, but also that you find enjoyable."

Ahh, perhaps some of this seems kind of obvious... "Duh, we need meaning to be happy," but the truth is... Many people fail to recognize this, as they struggle with developing and/or maintaining the tools necessary to pursue a meaningful life. Is this problematic and ideal, then, when the "formula" for happiness is dramatically different for each and every one of us? "According to the positive psychologist Professor Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania, it is possible to lift our biological set range of happiness, at least to some extent, if we work at it."

In addition to the scientific component of such research, I was pleased to find book reviews of recent literature...

The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin


The Science of Happiness, by Stefan Klein


So I came across so many wonderful articles outlining the power of Positive Psychology (APA Division 17, Society of Counseling Psychology). Here is a snippit from Harvard Magazine I found especially interesting, which is what I will leave you with today...

"For much of its history, psychology has seemed obsessed with human failings and pathology. The very idea of psychotherapy, first formalized by Freud, rests on a view of human beings as troubled creatures in need of repair. Freud himself was profoundly pessimistic about human nature, which he felt was governed by deep, dark drives that we could only tenuously control. The behaviorists who followed developed a model of human life that seemed to many mechanistic if not robotic: humans were passive beings mercilessly shaped by the stimuli and the contingent rewards and punishments that surrounded them."

"Though not denying humanity’s flaws, the new tack of positive psychologists recommends focusing on people’s strengths and virtues as a point of departure. Rather than analyze the psychopathology underlying alcoholism, for example, positive psychologists might study the resilience of those who have managed a successful recovery—for example, through Alcoholics Anonymous. Instead of viewing religion as a delusion and a crutch, as did Freud, they might identify the mechanisms through which a spiritual practice like meditation enhances mental and physical health. Their lab experiments might seek to define not the conditions that induce depraved behavior, but those that foster generosity, courage, creativity, and laughter."

Moral Dilemma

I do research for a professor on campus. Quite some time ago, while working in her lab, I noticed a newspaper clipping pasted to the side of the computer. I've read it several times and thought it was pretty interesting. I'm not sure which of my lab-mates posted the clipping, but I decided to share it today... You may find the story odd and unrealistic, but it's something to think about, if nothing else...



It reads (since my photo is impossible to decipher!)...

You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:
1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
2. An old friend who once saved your life.
3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car? This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application. You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first. Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again. You won't believe this... The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with this answer. He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams." Sometimes we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside the Box."

4.27.2010

Wordle!

I cannot, for the life of me, recall where I stumbled across this spicy little website... (If anybody knows, send a shout-out!) Take a peek at wordle.net. It creates a word cloud of all the words on your page.

Check out mine... So fun! I just love that "really," "want," and "something" seem to scream at me.

4.25.2010

I have a thing for...

Libraries. Ahh, wonderful, beautiful, sweet libraries. I love sitting in the library, getting uncontrollably wrapped up in a book or school work. I think the idea of being surrounded by literary geniuses really strikes a chord in my motivation. Plus, libraries smell soooo good. All those pages!

Anyhoo, I stumbled across this website last week...

20 of the World's Most Beautiful Libraries!

(Melk, Austria)

(Rijkmuseum, Amsterdam) 

(Prague, Czech Republic) 

(Baltimore, Maryland, USA)

Take a swing by the website, especially if you're in need of a little inspiration. :) 

4.24.2010

EXTREME HOPSCOTCH!

While galavanting along the promenade with my pal Kristen during our lunch break last week, we stumbled across this...


Ooh, just a little game of EXTREME HOPSCOTCH! Do you remember playing Hop Scotch as a kid? It wasn't really that popular when I was in elementary school, but I definitely dominated a few games of tether ball and four square in my day. What was your favorite playground game?

A Couch for Talking

I want this couch. I want to sit on it and chat on it! I want to buy a few ivory pillows to toss on it. Wouldn't this couch be absolutely lovely in an office... Say... a psychologist's office... I've got some time to think about it, obviously...

Ahh, I want this couch!

Tattoos

My friend Nikki in Prague last summer, modeling 
her Love tattoo on the inside of her mouth. Creative, eh? 
You never ever would have known it was there... 

I have a tattoo. It's on the back of my right ankle. And, I love it. As much as my family hates it, I really, really love it. It's a simple reminder of a really special experience I had traveling abroad in Costa Rica several years ago and I couldn't be happier with it. I recall struggling with the idea of getting one. It's so absolute; I'll have this thing inked on the back of my ankle for the rest of my life. Although I took plenty of time decide (over a year!) before I made the decision, I still panicked. There I sat in the Mission Beach Tattoo Salon, a very clean, but rustic, space facing the water at Belmont Park. My artist was sweet and silly. My girlfriends who were there were pleasant and supportive. Overall, the experience was quite memorable!

I know I wanted something that would mean something, something that would speak volumes without a lot of mumbo jumbo. I wanted something that would define me. Two years later, it still does. 50 years from now, it still will.


Ahhhh, are you just dyinggg to know what it is?? I'll share the story behind my tattoo next week!

So what's the verdict? Can tattoos be classy and special, be something that will help describe you in a way others things may not?

Jeff Ambrose Photography

Who appreciates good photography? Ah, this girl does! Please check out the photography of the very talented Jeff Ambrose. He does Arizona wedding, portrait, and travel photography. I can seriously jump on his website and lose track of time, glancing over at the clock 30 seconds later... realizing 30 minutes have passed. I've already recruited him for my graduation photos... He just doesn't know it yet... :)

My most recent favorites...

Oh my, way to capture this moment!

How amazing is this light?!

And, I know these young ladies. Down-right phenom! 

No, I'm not kidding. This is legit. 

Chivalry-ish?

(photo via google images)

Yes, yes, I am all about women's independence, liberty, feminism, etc. Women have really embraced an identity in this world and I couldn't be happier about it. However, I reallyyy love having a car door opened for me. And, I reallyyy love when a fella walks on the outside of the sidewalk, so he's nearest the street. And, I reallyyy love when a gentleman insists I order first at dinner. It warms my heart. Does my appreciation for these acts of kindness make me less like a feminist and more like a traditionalist? I seem to straddle this line of enjoying my place as an independent young woman seeking my autonomy, but entertaining the idea of being taken care of... While walking around campus today, I was in and out of different buildings, running through doorways. Some men held the door, some didn't. Most of those who did were older men. I might argue these chivalrous acts come with age, but not necessarily. What do you think?

Firefighters :)


I have an obsession with firefighters. And, my friends know it. Bless their hearts, as we walk down the street, they pause patiently as the big red trucks drive by. I stop, wave sheepishly, they wave sweetly back. They know they're studs, and they play into it. My dear friend Katie sent this photo over to me last week with a tag: "Just for you, Lauren!" Ahh, thank you, Katie. You know the way to my heart.

So, what do you think... Inappropriate to ogle over the attractive firefighters of New York City? Am I falling into that stereotype... Like those men who whistle and holler at women who walk down the street... I'll admit, I've called myself shallow and insensitive, and I could easily stop my innocent flirting... (I mean really, I wave, wink, and flip my hair...) So really, is there a double standard when it comes to behavior like this? Is it more or less appropriate for men and women to play into this?

4.23.2010

1000 Awesome Things

(photo via 1000awesomethings.com) 

I have seriously, seriously brainstormed the idea of making a book out of my Happy Things portfolio. Some of them, yes, are somewhat personal and may not strike a chord for others like they do for me. But, some of them are so special, so sincere, that I think many people would appreciate hearing, reading, or seeing them.

Well, well, this wonderful chap did something very similar, and I look up to him immensely because of it! Please check out 1000 Awesome Things by Neil Pasricha. It will make your heart happy! He made a book titled The Book of Awesome. I'm putting it on my wish-list.

Some of my favorites...

#523, When you learn a new word and start seeing it everywhere...
#531, The big night nap...
#536, When you're being chased by zombies and suddenly find a hidden stash of guns and ammo...

I've only perused through 20 or so, but with 1,000 available... I'll keep the good ones comin!

I'm alive!

(photo via ffffound.com)

Ahh, yes. I am alive and well-ish. Stretched myself a bit thin the past week or so, but I'll be back on track this weekend, and I have so many wonderful things to share! Until then, check out this amazing story. He's going to DisneyLand!!

4.12.2010

Good Week/Bad Week

(Yup. That's gum on my shoe.)
Indeed, it is Tuesday... And time for another installment of GOOD WEEK/BAD WEEK.


Annnd, here we go... 

6 weeks until graduation! Good week. 
1 paper and 1 presentation this week. Bad week. 
Mama Meyer and Sister/Sister arrive Thursday. Good week. 
Laundry = bogus. Bad week. 
Laundry all over my couch = bogus. Bad week.
Lovely Sundays at Hudson River Park. Good week. 
Dirty Hudson River water. Bad week. 
Bikers and runners embracing the good weather. Good week. 
Biker and runner colliding. Bad week. (For them. Ha.) 
Brunch at Cookshop. Good week. 
Not seeing my server crush. Bad week. 
Ridiculously major ice cream cravings. Bad week. 
Satisfying ridiculously major ice cream cravings. Bad week. 
Empty kitchen. Bad week. 
Having no time to fill empty kitchen. Bad week. 
Eating out at Chipotle every night until empty kitchen is filled. Mmm, questionable - your call. 
No air conditioning at my externship. Bad week. 
No air conditioning in our apartment. Bad week. 
Allergy season. Bad week. 
Allegra. Good week... And a dry week. Ha. 
Playing NYC Neighborhood trivia with Alix. Good week. 
The Intrepid in the Hudson Harbor. Big boat. Good week. 
Downloading She & Him. Good week. 
Missing She & Him in concert. Bad week. 
Conan returns to late night in November. Good week. 
Seeing the sun. Good week. 
Seeing the sun five days in a row. Good week.


Ooh, dear. Try this. It's a rather refreshing, and comical, exercise. Ahhh, Happy Tuesday! :) 

Le Love, Le Sigh

(photo via tumblr.com) 
What happens when you pass up that one - big - crazy opportunity to tell him or her that you're in love... With them? Do you wait for another - equally amazing - moment to swing by again, or do you ignore any future possibilities, assuming the time has passed? Does "bad timing" really exist, when two people share an immaculate connection on opposite sides of the world, or when two people share an immaculate friendship on opposite sides of the room? Or is this just an excuse we make up to placate our nervousness? I'm toying with the idea of love in my head... (Obviously, love belongs in my heart, not my head... My first problem, I know. Ha.) These silly little thoughts have plagued me today, and my motivation to finish my term paper... ;)

Poetry Slam

(The Poets, photo via Nuyorican.org)
My dear Mom and dear Sister will be in town this coming weekend, and naturally I'd like to show them a good time. Mama Meyer has only a short layover in the city, so surely we'll grab some fine faire then mosey over to the theatre for a fun flick. However, Sister/Sister will be in town until Sunday morning. I've heard oohs and ahhs from some pals about the wonders of the Nuyorican Poets Cafe - a fantastic little place in Alphabet City. Apparently they host poetry slams every Friday night! Fun and original, eh? We may have to partake...

Any other suggestions?? I'm always down for good fun on the cheap... (LaurenNMeyer@gmail.com)

I want her hair. Really bad.

(photo via ffffound.com) 
How lovely would it be to have long hair and pull off something like this? I feel like it would be appropriate for a day in the park if you paired it with a pair of shorts and a tank, or even for a night on the town with a sexy mini skirt and a satin blouse. I've got a longer version of Victoria Beckham's haircut right now (in desperate need of a haircut to return me to my legit Lady Beckham days!), but this makes me wanna grow my hair out and create something magical! Which do you prefer? Short and chic or long and lavish? Both are oh-so tempting!

4.11.2010

It's Spring...

And you know what that means...

Bryant Park will soon be releasing their Summer Film Festival schedule!! Hooray! This may be one of my *favorite* New York City events. I'm like a child waiting for a candy shop to open.

Dear Time Warner Cable - please add this nice young lady to your V.I.P. list. I want to be the first to know!!

(photo via bryantpark.org)

Hudson River Park

Dear Sunday,

You're quite lovely. I do enjoy your weekly cameos, when you arrive at the end of the week with such sweet aromas at your side - spring breezes, fresh flowers, clear skies, and smiling faces. When things get crazy, I forget that Sunday is a day to sit back, set aside those pesky obligations, and satisfy my temptations to enjoy a little relaxation.

Oh Sunday, If I could partner your beauty with the energies of Bob Marley, Jack Johnson, and She & Him, I would wish everyday a Sunday.

Today, Alix and I decided to enjoy your presence, taking a walk through the Hudson River Park. And, we weren't alone. So many others were out and about savoring the charisma of such a beautiful day.






Thanks, Sunday - for reminding me how important it is to enjoy what I have while embracing all of the lovely things around me.

Sincerely,

Lauren

4.09.2010

Children in a Box

I went out to breakfast with my gal pal Amanda this morning. While driving around looking for a parking space (parking in the city = absolutely horrible), we wound up following around a young woman who was on her way to school... On a bike... With her children...

Financially savvy with a dash of creativity? Absolutely. Bonding time for you and your tots? For sure. Still sort of odd looking? You bet.



















P.S. Love her jacket!

The Promenade at Brooklyn Heights

After I started my externship in Brooklyn, I was constantly hearing about "The Promenade." All my supervisors were telling me to "go walk down the Promenade." I had no clue what they were talking about. According to their tales, it was just a short walk from the office and provided an absolutely gorgeous view of the tail end of the city.



What in the world took me soooo long to get on board with this?? I must say, however, I may have chosen one of the better days to go exploring. The weather was absolutely gorgeous on Tuesday. There was a light breeze and the sky was clear. Tons of people were out and about enjoying the Spring weather. I have just six short weeks left at my externship, so I certainly plan to swing by the Promenade as frequently as possible between now and my last day.

The Flower Show at Macy*s

Mama Meyer was in town earlier this week, and per our usual outings, we took a short stroll through Macy*s. We were both pleasantly surprised to find it's Flower Show Time at Macy*s! Sincere apologies for the poor picture quality... But you get the idea. All these flowers are totally legit! And, they even had a cute little bird in a rustic cage in the center of the store. (It was covered with a blanket since it was still sleeping, I suppose? But cool, nonetheless! The flower show continues through April 11th at the Herald Square location, and four other stores across the country to usher in the Spring season.


4.05.2010

REWORK Illustrations


Please take a peek at REWORK Illustrations via flickr.com. They share some seriously intense messages that are oh-so impressive, somewhat abrasive, and interestingly insightful. Kind of fun, eh?

A Letter to the Editor

(photo via swiss-miss.com, via REWORK Illustrations a la Flickr.com)

I do believe I've mentioned it several times, I really, really love to write. Writing is truly a therapeutic outlet for me. Interestingly enough, my passion for the written word is hardly satisfied through my blog, although it helps a great deal. Churning out essays for school, writing love notes to friends, and even scribbling away personal notes to relieve anxiety have evolved into my survival tools for this life. (Journaling is a highly recommended and insightful activity in therapy. Give it a whirl, you may be surprised!)

So then, I'd like to scratch a little something off my *30 Before I'm 50* list. I would simply love the opportunity to write a fun and frisky article for the New York Times. I'm confident I have the drive to make it happen, so I'm getting started now.

I can appreciate that big accomplishments require hard work with a combination of steps - baby and otherwise. So, to get the ball rolling, to take my first step... I am going to submit a letter to the Op/Ed page of the New York Times. (Thanks, Alix, for the recommendation!) I don't want to submit some willy nilly old thing (I want to be interested in what I'm writing about), I must do some research. I've added the New York Times application to my BlackBerry (Cue the Generation-Y jokes, here.) so I can scout their website daily for content suitable for a letter to the editor. (I would love to have a reasonable and *frisky* opinion of the topic I choose to pursue.) In addition, I will encourage myself to absorb as much information as possible among a variety of categories. (I won't lie, politics aren't really my thing. I may steer clear of this area. Life lessons and reports of personal experience are more my speed, I think.) To accomplish this element, I will *try* to be as informed as possible on upcoming talks, lectures, and web networking events.

Alrighty then, a letter to the editor may *not* guarantee me a twice-weekly columnist position with the New York Times... Like my dreams sometimes suggest, but it's certainly a good start. As a veteran Yearbooker a la Dobson High, and a veteran Newsie a la John Jay, I'm quite comfortable with deadlines.  Therefore, it would be wise to give myself one.

September 1.

Whoa, whoa, whoa... This deadline is months away! Lauren, you're turning this into a very dramatic production! Your letter could very well be read, dismissed, and tossed into the circular file (the trash!).

Perhaps I am being a wee bit dramatic. I may certainly come up with dozens of letters to the editor in the next five months. And you're right, my little letter to the editor (150 word limit for the Times), the one I slaved five months over, may be tossed aside like yesterday's laundry. However, I have several obligations to fulfill before making my letter to the editor a priority. (Hi, graduation. Hi, summer teaching gig. Hi, move back to Phoenix. Hi, adulthood.) Furthermore, I would appreciate the opportunity to become a better news junkie, seek reliable and accurate information (Have you heard Mark Twain's opinion of adequate readership? "Those who don't read the newspaper are uninformed. Those who read the newspaper are misinformed." Interesting, hmm?) to supplement any letter I compose.

So, the challenge is set. Ahhahaha, this is gonna be fun. ;)

Lovely in Floral?

I hope to be lovely in floral... I purchased a graduation dress this afternoon from Francesca's Collections. I'm thinking they should start high-fiving me for all the purchases I have made with them. Depending on the weather, I may pair this with leggings & wedges... Thoughts? Thank you, Andrea, for such a lovely treat! :)

Easter

Happy (belated) Easter, my friends! I was out galavanting around the Cherry Blossom festival yesterday, enjoying a little Easter weather. However, check out the lovely goings-on in my hometown of Phoenix this past weekend...

(Baby Kate is turning into such a little lady!)

(These tulips make me love pastels even more,
if that was at all possible! Thanks for sharing, Brie!) 

Oldie but a Goodie


During a trip to Prague last summer for a Student Psychology conference, I attended the opera with some Aussie gals from the program - Sarah and Julia. We could not, for the life of us, understand the language they were singing (Czech), but the story was very telling anyway. How amazing is that, do you think - to gain such a powerful message from something you don't really understand? The message was certainly in the music, not just the lyrics. Anyhoo, I was pittering through some old photos and came across this one. I'm thinking Australia may be a future destination...

Travel Bug


As it turns out, I have a bit of the travel bug. Whenever I return from a trip, even a mini-holiday, I rush right over to the computer and start obsessing over my next travel fix. I just returned from D.C. yesterday, and I'm oohing and ahhing over a trip to somewhere outrageous and totally unaffordable...

If you consider yourself an excursionista/o, you probably know what I'm talking about... There's something about being in an unfamiliar city, and depending on yourself to get around... This past weekend may have been a poor example, because I had dear Brooke to tour me around, but in general - I'm all about that slight feeling of fear, mixed with a dash of challenge, and a handful of adventure. It's like you're running on inflated adrenaline for the entire experience. Is this making sense?

Weekend Getaway

Not gonna lie, Spring Break wasn't much of a break... Until this weekend. :)

Although I had nine (9!) days off* this past week, I still had some obligations to fulfill. I went to my externship, ran errands, etc. Blah, blah, blah - adulthood bites.

I had my dear friend Sam in town this week, so we were able to canoodle around town in the evening...


Buuuut, I also managed a weekend getaway to D.C. this weekend to visit my friend Brooke. Lovely!

(Dance-off, my turn.)

(Dance-off, Rylan's turn.)

(And, Lauren picks up a "W" with the *Gambler's* move.)

(Represent.)

(Hell's Kitchen, holllaaaa!)

(Howevs, this lady is a desert rat at heart.)

(Dear Brooke, you're so vogue.)

(Are you getting this?)

(And, I just love...)

(a good...)

(Cherry Blossom Festival.) 

The weather was absolutely gorgeous, and the company was downright divine. Washington D.C., I do love you. Thanks, Brooke - for hosting a wonderful weekend getaway. :) 
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