Showing posts with label bridging the gap. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bridging the gap. Show all posts

5.31.2011

Words to Live By

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For whatever reason, Sinatra reminds me of being young (at heart). It must be that dapper suit.

Thanks Emily, for sharing an AWESOME blog with me a few days back. Well certainly, I love anything that will encourage introspection, and these Words To Live By do exactly that.

A few of my favorites...

Health:

6. Read more books than you did in 2010.

Personality:

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

Life:

4. The best is yet to come. (Sigh.)

1.12.2011

The Happiness Project

Such a great upper for 2011. If you haven't read this book, get to it! I've been in a clean-up and clean-out mood over the last few weeks. I have this book to thank for pushing the envelope just a bit. Plus, it's time to make some positive lifestyle changes. Thanks, Gretchen, for such a great piece of literature!

Return from the Dead?

I'll admit, I've been going through a bit of a funk here in the desert. This whole adulthood thing has thrown me for a loop. But, here is the latest from my end.

Dominated my first semester as an adjunct instructor at Mesa Community College. Props to me!
Accepted an instructor position in the Psych department. Woot!
Managed a trip to New York City to visit with some of my favorite gals and feed some of the withdrawals I've been having for the concrete jungle.
I submitted all of my PhD applications. Now, I get to sit. And wait. And pray.
I submitted my first student loan payment. Gulp.
I'm a proud car-owner. Merlot is getting her first car-wash tomorrow! Exciting!
I'm working with a research colleague to submit another research project! Yikes!
I'm drafting a Letter to the Editor, finally fulfilling a goal I set for myself many months ago. My, how time flies.

Finally, here's a cool website I was introduced to last week. SO amazing!

http://wefeelfine.org/ 

Basically, they surf the web for "feeling" words, then compile them in a really creative way on this website. Sure, there is a slight X-factor, but it's mostly PG-13 and really insightful.

Enjoy!

12.01.2010

Pay It Forward Day

Ch-ch-ch-check it out! I think it's great; I just wish we didn't need a time of year to be giving.

11.23.2010

Love Letters. Big Ones.

Check out this website, ALoveLetterForYou.com...

This guy, Stephen Powers, joined with the City of Philadelphia Mural Arts Program to bring some splash to suburbia... In a really sweet way.



Note to all studs, make a mural happen for your favorite gal pal and you'll win her over for good.

10.27.2010

Wednesday Night Treats

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Bob is God

Song on repeat this week: Is This Love, by Bob Marley. His music makes me wanna slow down and take a deep breath, then keep on moving.


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7.28.2010

Where is Matt??

My dear friend AmyJane sent this over to me this afternoon! I just love it!! This guy Matt traveled all over the world and created a record of his destinations, in a very sweet and creative way. Check it out!



*Update!! Visit his website: wherethehellismatt.com and sign up to be in one of his videos! (I totes did!) So cool! :)

7.19.2010

Ain't that the truth?

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10K

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I'm running in the Lost Dutchman Marathon 10K race on February 20th, 2011. My dear Sister suggested it, so we're going to do it together. And recently, my mom jumped on board. It's going to be a lovely bonding experience for us! So, I'm registered for the 10K starting at 8a.

Here's the dish, I'm not much of a runner. But, I want to be. So, I've officially started "training." While living in New York, I was motivated by my dear friend Amy to run along the West Side Highway. When I returned to Phoenix, I decided to run on the treadmill instead (running in 110 degrees, not happening). So, come the last week of September, I'll start running outside again.

So then, consider this my official commitment.

7.14.2010

A Lesson Learned Today

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I have a very strong belief... That those close to you in life are there for a reason. They're there to teach you something, show you something about themselves that in turn will reflect a piece of you. Perhaps some people fade in and out of your world because they are meant to teach you things at different stages in your life. I sometimes forget this when I become upset with my parents, irritated with my friends, or just simply angry over the way things seem to be going. 

While perusing through my favorite blogs today, I stopped for a moment at my dear friend Kristin's most recent post... She blogged about signs and how she characteristically struggles with change. As a result, she asks God for signs, loud and clear, so there is simply no question about what is right. I wouldn't consider myself a highly religious person, but I certainly feel spiritually connected. I felt connected to what she had to say. I want to have faith in the decisions I make. The next few months will present dozens of new challenges, and I want to feel the warmth of confidence with each new challenge I face. Thanks, Kristin, for enlightening me. :) 

Well, if you weren't sure...

This flow chart seems to help you figure it out... I think it would be kind of fun to frame and stick above your bathroom sink.

(photo via swiss-miss.com)

6.01.2010

Create.


Live. Work. Create. (Outside an apparel shop in Brooklyn.) 

I love that "Create" was included. 

99 Experiences

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My lovely gal pal Nicole over at Letters from Coco recently posted a list of special experiences. The idea is to cross off those you've accomplished and reflect on those still to come. So, I'm partaking. Thanks, Nicole, for the lovely activity; I figured it's a good way to jump-start my summer, and get back in the blogging swing. :) Enjoy! (P.s. My experiences are in orange. Those to come are in black.)
 
1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to DisneyLand
8. Climbed a mountain
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sung a solo
11. Bungee jumped or cliff jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a thunder and lightning storm
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Run a marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David in person
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
62. Gone whale watching
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma
65. Been sky diving
66. Visited a Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been a passenger on a motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Kissed a stranger at midnight on New Year’s Eve
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Gotten a tattoo
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee

Interesting to think: Most of the experiences I've had occurred in foreign countries. This is totally life telling me to travel more. 

Still to come...
- Graduation Stories!
- Sunburn Stories -slash- Beach Stories. Yikes.
- Sex and the City. Oh my!
- Rooftop Parties!
- Memorial Day Weekend Shenanigans. :)

Happy Tuesday, my friends! I hope your holiday was warm and special!

5.03.2010

Housing Works: Design on a Dime


(photo via housingworks.com)

Heard of this place, Housing Works? It's an organization offering services to two populations - the homeless and individuals suffering from AIDS. It's a rather fantastic organization with services like case management,  health care, legal aide, job training, housing subsidies. Ahhh, I could keep going. Anyhoo, they have an event coming up - Design on a Dime. It's a huge fundraising event at their flagship thrift shop on 18th Street celebrating progress in this field of work. And, I reallyyyy want to go! Bummer I have a test that night, but I'll definitely make it to their public sale on Friday and Saturday! Isn't it lovely to do something fun - like shop - and still make a difference? :)

4.30.2010

The Science of Happiness

(photo via TIME.com)

I'm a happy person, oh yes. I am most definitely a very happy person. (I just love, love, love my happy things!) I'm also a grad student in a scientific field, so when these two passions of mine come together, oooh myyy - the outcome is downright magnificent!

Upon awakening this morning, I flipped on the tube to the news, as per my usual morning routine. I was sparked by a new headline... "The Science of Happiness." The Today show did a segment about genetically determined features of happiness, and their environmental counterparts that may trigger glee in our lives. What'd I do next, you ask? I googled it, natch!

My findings... I found article after article after article discussing the nature/nurture debate - how we, as humans, may be genetically determined to seek happiness in our lives, but stumble across triggers in our environment that encourage us to maintain our happiness. Of course, professionals in the field could argue for years (as they have already) over the importance of nature and nurture combining forces; there is certainly no absolute answer on this, as of yet. (Which school of thought do you follow, nature/ nurture/ nature & nurture?) It is important to note, however, I am not ruling out the relevance of depression. Major Depressive Disorder, or MDD, is an intense diagnosis and emerges from a variety of events - genetic and environmental. As a student of Psychology, I may argue, perhaps our genetics are the driving force behind finding happiness in our lives. Although we may very well be predetermined to become happy people, perhaps our genes act as the catalyst for embracing what occurs in our environments. Here, the two perspectives merge together in a new way.

Scientists simply love the act of research, but always come across the same problem when evaluating an idea... "But how do we measure it?" The BBC did a wonderful series on the science of happiness, as they discussed the importance of measuring happiness. At this point, self-report becomes the ideal way to measure how happy one is at different points in his or her life. Naturally, there are drawbacks to using this style of data collection... We'll save that for another post... So then, back to the BBC... After administering a survey to participants, a correlation, or pattern, began to emerge. "Significant relationships between happiness and some other factor were repeated." In science, the word "prove" is a bad, bad word. We cannot "prove" anything. We can certainly suggest that a significant relationship exists, but we cannot say definitively that "A" caused "B." There are simply too many other factors that can potentially impact a relationship. So, what are these "factors," you ask? Professor Ed Diener from the University of Illinois reported some of them...

"First, family and friends are crucial - the wider and deeper the relationships with those around you the better. It is even suggested that friendship can ward off germs. Our brains control many of the mechanisms in our bodies which are reponsible for disease."

"The second vital ingredient is having meaning in our lives - something bigger than yourself - from religion, spirtuality, or a philosophy of life."

"The third element is having goals embedded in your long term values that you're working for, but also that you find enjoyable."

Ahh, perhaps some of this seems kind of obvious... "Duh, we need meaning to be happy," but the truth is... Many people fail to recognize this, as they struggle with developing and/or maintaining the tools necessary to pursue a meaningful life. Is this problematic and ideal, then, when the "formula" for happiness is dramatically different for each and every one of us? "According to the positive psychologist Professor Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania, it is possible to lift our biological set range of happiness, at least to some extent, if we work at it."

In addition to the scientific component of such research, I was pleased to find book reviews of recent literature...

The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin


The Science of Happiness, by Stefan Klein


So I came across so many wonderful articles outlining the power of Positive Psychology (APA Division 17, Society of Counseling Psychology). Here is a snippit from Harvard Magazine I found especially interesting, which is what I will leave you with today...

"For much of its history, psychology has seemed obsessed with human failings and pathology. The very idea of psychotherapy, first formalized by Freud, rests on a view of human beings as troubled creatures in need of repair. Freud himself was profoundly pessimistic about human nature, which he felt was governed by deep, dark drives that we could only tenuously control. The behaviorists who followed developed a model of human life that seemed to many mechanistic if not robotic: humans were passive beings mercilessly shaped by the stimuli and the contingent rewards and punishments that surrounded them."

"Though not denying humanity’s flaws, the new tack of positive psychologists recommends focusing on people’s strengths and virtues as a point of departure. Rather than analyze the psychopathology underlying alcoholism, for example, positive psychologists might study the resilience of those who have managed a successful recovery—for example, through Alcoholics Anonymous. Instead of viewing religion as a delusion and a crutch, as did Freud, they might identify the mechanisms through which a spiritual practice like meditation enhances mental and physical health. Their lab experiments might seek to define not the conditions that induce depraved behavior, but those that foster generosity, courage, creativity, and laughter."

Moral Dilemma

I do research for a professor on campus. Quite some time ago, while working in her lab, I noticed a newspaper clipping pasted to the side of the computer. I've read it several times and thought it was pretty interesting. I'm not sure which of my lab-mates posted the clipping, but I decided to share it today... You may find the story odd and unrealistic, but it's something to think about, if nothing else...



It reads (since my photo is impossible to decipher!)...

You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:
1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
2. An old friend who once saved your life.
3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car? This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application. You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first. Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again. You won't believe this... The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with this answer. He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams." Sometimes we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside the Box."

4.24.2010

Tattoos

My friend Nikki in Prague last summer, modeling 
her Love tattoo on the inside of her mouth. Creative, eh? 
You never ever would have known it was there... 

I have a tattoo. It's on the back of my right ankle. And, I love it. As much as my family hates it, I really, really love it. It's a simple reminder of a really special experience I had traveling abroad in Costa Rica several years ago and I couldn't be happier with it. I recall struggling with the idea of getting one. It's so absolute; I'll have this thing inked on the back of my ankle for the rest of my life. Although I took plenty of time decide (over a year!) before I made the decision, I still panicked. There I sat in the Mission Beach Tattoo Salon, a very clean, but rustic, space facing the water at Belmont Park. My artist was sweet and silly. My girlfriends who were there were pleasant and supportive. Overall, the experience was quite memorable!

I know I wanted something that would mean something, something that would speak volumes without a lot of mumbo jumbo. I wanted something that would define me. Two years later, it still does. 50 years from now, it still will.


Ahhhh, are you just dyinggg to know what it is?? I'll share the story behind my tattoo next week!

So what's the verdict? Can tattoos be classy and special, be something that will help describe you in a way others things may not?

Chivalry-ish?

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Yes, yes, I am all about women's independence, liberty, feminism, etc. Women have really embraced an identity in this world and I couldn't be happier about it. However, I reallyyy love having a car door opened for me. And, I reallyyy love when a fella walks on the outside of the sidewalk, so he's nearest the street. And, I reallyyy love when a gentleman insists I order first at dinner. It warms my heart. Does my appreciation for these acts of kindness make me less like a feminist and more like a traditionalist? I seem to straddle this line of enjoying my place as an independent young woman seeking my autonomy, but entertaining the idea of being taken care of... While walking around campus today, I was in and out of different buildings, running through doorways. Some men held the door, some didn't. Most of those who did were older men. I might argue these chivalrous acts come with age, but not necessarily. What do you think?

Firefighters :)


I have an obsession with firefighters. And, my friends know it. Bless their hearts, as we walk down the street, they pause patiently as the big red trucks drive by. I stop, wave sheepishly, they wave sweetly back. They know they're studs, and they play into it. My dear friend Katie sent this photo over to me last week with a tag: "Just for you, Lauren!" Ahh, thank you, Katie. You know the way to my heart.

So, what do you think... Inappropriate to ogle over the attractive firefighters of New York City? Am I falling into that stereotype... Like those men who whistle and holler at women who walk down the street... I'll admit, I've called myself shallow and insensitive, and I could easily stop my innocent flirting... (I mean really, I wave, wink, and flip my hair...) So really, is there a double standard when it comes to behavior like this? Is it more or less appropriate for men and women to play into this?
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